The Breakthrough Emotional Eating Podcast

BEE #138: Harnessing Positive Self-Talk: 3 Strategies to Transform Emotional Eating and Boost Self-Confidence

• Kristin Jones

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Are you ready to break free from self-doubt and emotional eating? In this episode, I dive deep into the surprising connection between inner dialogue and your relationship with food. Discover how negative self-talk can sabotage weight loss efforts and emotional well-being.

Explore the power of positive affirmations and Rapid Transformational Therapy to shift limiting beliefs and embrace a healthier, happier you. Hear a real-life story of a client who overcame self-doubt and transformed their life through the power of positive self-talk.

Learn three practical strategies to cultivate a positive mindset and boost your self-esteem:

  • Catch and Counteract: Identify negative self-talk and replace it with empowering affirmations.
  • Present Tense Power: Harness the magic of present-tense affirmations to manifest positive change.
  • Create a Supportive Environment: Surround yourself with uplifting influences to fuel your journey.

Understanding how your thoughts impacts your eating is the key to sustainable weight loss and happiness in your life.

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Speaker 1:

Hi and welcome to the Breakthrough Emotional Eating Podcast. My name is Kristen Jones and thank you so much for joining me this week. The topic today is definitely one that I have seen very, very prevalent in my work with clients, and it is something that repeats itself over and over again, and I think what I'm finding is that really needs to be addressed. Is not, it's important, the words that you're saying to yourself, but what's more important is what you are thinking about yourself and how that manifests itself in how you treat yourself and what your thoughts are about yourself. When you think you don't deserve something or you think that you shouldn't be treated in a way that is positive and worthy, most of the time it's because you're thinking thoughts about yourself that are not building you up, and that directly translates into your behavior towards yourself. I find that self-sabotaging behavior is the number one thing that results in someone giving up on their weight loss goal, on their emotional eating work, because they start to do things and they don't understand why they're doing them, and it's because of some very, very deeply established and deeply rooted beliefs that they have about themselves. So, on that note, before I get started with the topic of the podcast. That's my dog if you're watching on video. One of the things that is incredibly valuable when it comes to self-talk and comes to how you talk about yourself and the words that you say and the things that you're thinking, is the usage, and one of the things that I've started doing with people is using hypnosis to work on those beliefs that people have about themselves and the words that they say about themselves and the negative tapes and the negative beliefs that continue to replay in their minds and people have such a hard time getting rid of those, and hypnosis is one option of doing that and I just want to share that.

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I have a client and I have a client right now and I'm posting about her a lot on on Instagram and on Facebook because she's doing amazingly well. But we just talked earlier today and one of the things I want to read this quote because I told her I was going to use this quote. I want to read this quote because I told her I was going to use this quote. One of the quotes that she said to me was it feels like I'm a different person, like I got a brain transplant, like I'm back in weight loss mode. I'm back in the zone, and if I think about eating something, my thought is, eh, I'm really not interested. And if you are thinking gosh, I would really love to think about food and think that I'm not interested in eating. That is because she's doing this kind of work with her thoughts, her beliefs and what she is saying to herself, and she has worked on that with me through hypnosis, and so it's really I'm seeing firsthand, and I've seen firsthand in the past, but this is just so quick and so rapid, which is what RTT rapid transformational therapy stands for. It really is amazing to see this in the process, as it's happening, because things just continue to go better and better and better for her as she establishes these new beliefs and these new thoughts about herself. And so today's topic is really talking about that, about how do we deal with that. And today's topic is going to be dealing with not even using hypnosis. This is just our, our, our everyday, everyday thoughts about ourselves.

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So there are oftentimes we'll make the suggestion about, you know, do doing affirmations. You'll be told like, oh, do affirmations, say affirmations. And most of the time people are thinking well, why, why should I say affirmations? What, what is it actually doing for me. What is it actually? How is it actually contributing and making things better for me?

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Well, the thing about your brain is that your brain only gets its beliefs and its thoughts about you based upon what you think about. So your brain only knows and only gets information from you. It does get information from outside, but it mostly gets that information based because when somebody says something about you, it turns to you and like, okay, what do you think about that? If somebody said something about you and you went, oh, that's so not true, your brain wouldn't believe it. Your brain would not believe what the person said. It would believe you. It believes you over everyone, anyone else.

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So if you are saying things that are negative, you are saying things that are hurtful, you are saying things that are just not uplifting and not helpful to you. That is the only source of information that your brain has for believing what it wants to believe about you and for giving you the thoughts and the feelings that you have about yourself. And so we have to be incredibly careful and vigilant about what our thoughts are and what are the thoughts and the things that we're saying about ourselves. Because if your brain's only option for a source of information is what you think. I'm sure most of you are like Ooh, that's not good, because I'm probably I'm I'm. If I feel badly, it's because I'm saying all these bad things about myself, and that is absolutely true. So we have to be really, really careful and really aware that what we say is what our brain believes and what it creates more of. It creates more of those kinds of thoughts about our, about ourselves of. It creates more of those kinds of thoughts about ourselves.

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Another thing is that your brain is so smart and it wants to make you so happy that when you say something about yourself and you, for instance, you say something positive about yourself you say, oh my gosh, I did such a great job. Your brain wants you to continue to be happy, and so what it will do is it will find proof of things that you've done that you're proud of, and it will present all of these things that will show you and just continue to help you feel more and more proud of yourself. The opposite is true as well, and most of us do the opposite. Most of us are feeding our brain information that is not kind, not nice, and it would be something we would never say about anyone else, but we will say it about ourselves. And one thing that's important to remember is your brain. You can't hide your thoughts from your brain. You have to be. Your brain knows every thought that you have, it knows every belief that you have, and it will absolutely believe it and hold on to anything that you've said. So if you are speaking in a negative way about yourself, it will absolutely hold on to that, even if you then correct and you're like oh, I didn't mean that it still hears those other negative things that you've said. So we have to be absolutely, absolutely, incredibly careful about how we do that.

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So what is the solution to and actually let me explain to you how this, how this also relates to self-sabotaging behavior, whether it becomes down to reaching any kind of goal, but especially, in particular, a weight loss goal and, you know, trying to curb and control your emotional eating, excuse me. So when you are thinking negative thoughts about yourself, when you are thinking negative thoughts about yourself, you are basically telling yourself that you are not important, and a lot of times you are saying, well, you're not worthy, you're not good enough, you're not doing enough, you're all of these things that are usually very negative. And so when push comes to shove and you're in that situation where you get to make a decision about do I eat this thing or do I stay on my plan, do I go out for a walk or do I sit on the couch and eat a cookie, when you're given those situations, if the thought that comes to your head is, well, you always just eat the cookie. So you know that's what you're going to do. If that's the thought that you have, that's absolutely what you're going to do. So you have to remember that those negative thoughts build up, build up, build up, build up and then they make you feel, and your brain believes, that you're not worthy and that you're not worthy of taking care of and that you will do the wrong thing. Because if you're thinking that you're going to do the wrong thing, you're probably going to, because that's all your brain has to go by. That's the only option it's been given. So those negative thoughts and the negative self-talk is only going to be right there, bubbling on the surface. When there's any sort of possibility of self-sabotaging behavior, it is going to come up and it's going to push you in the direction of doing whatever that behavior is that is going to move you further and further away from your goals and give you more thoughts of I'm not worthy, I'm not important, I can't do this, I always fail at this, all those things. So the more you can say positive things about yourself, about who you are as a person, the more you can do that and the more you can really control and catch the negative self-talk, the better off you'll be, the better off you'll be in achieving any goal at all. So there are three things, three things that you could do and that you could start doing today. Three things that you can start doing today that are going to make a huge difference in how you feel and how you move in your weight loss journey, but also how you feel in general. And again, how you feel will translate into how you act Because, remember, thoughts create feelings. Feelings drive every action that we do. So if we have bad thoughts, that creates a bad feeling, the bad feelings then drive the negative behaviors that we do, and so we have to be careful. We have to always be aware and go back to what am I thinking? I've got to be careful of those thoughts. So three things that you can do today, right after this.

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You listen to this podcast. Three things that you can do today. First one is being very aware and vigilant about catching yourself when you are saying negative things about yourself, or saying negative things in general, but specifically about yourself. And how do you do that? You notice that you're doing it. You tell your brain. You have a conversation with your brain, say nope, we don't do that anymore. I don't talk badly about myself anymore. This is stopping now and you have to just kind of interrupt that stopping. Then you come back with a rebuttal, the reason why you should stop it. You stop it because it's not true. You're not that kind of person. You aren't, whatever you said you are. You've got to come back with a rebuttal, tell your brain no, and then replace it with a better, more positive thought about you. You always want to end on that positive, and what does that end up looking like? Well, it ends up looking like you create an affirmation. You create something positive that comes out of it, and then that's something that you can use every day Again.

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The second thing is affirmations, positive affirmations that you create. Now, what exactly is a positive affirmation? Well, positive affirmation is either something that you are aspiring to do and be and feel or it's a belief about. I prefer beliefs about ourselves that we know for sure, that we absolutely know for sure, and I don't think anyone could say that they're not a good person, that they're not loved, that they don't care about people, that you, just you always want to say something about yourself that you know in your heart is true. And so saying something like I'm a good person, that's it. It's as simple as that. I'm a good person. It's present tense, it's happening right now and I'm a good person really allows you to feel very positively about yourself. Allows you to feel very positively about yourself. It has to be stated in the present, as if it's already in existence, and you absolutely need to believe. When you say a positive affirmation, you need to believe that that statement is true or it's becoming true. And it's important to say them regularly, very regularly, 10, 15 times a day, trying to remind yourself. Anytime there's a downtime and your brain starts wandering off and it starts doing that negative self-talk, you come back with your positive affirmations.

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And the third thing that we can all start doing and all be much better at is being very selective with who we surround ourselves with, that surrounding ourselves with people who are uplifting, who are positive, who are supportive, who believe in you and who are going to lift you up and not tear you down. Too often people surround themselves with people that they know are toxic, but they're too afraid, they're too scared, they're too insecure, they're worried about what the other person's going to think, and all the while, they are dying inside. So we have to be better about selecting and being very careful about who we spend time with, because we all absorb other people's energy and we need to make sure that we are being extra, extra careful about the energy that we're letting into our bodies, that we're letting into our environments and that, then, that helps us build more of that positivity and the positive energy that we want to be surrounding ourselves with. That allows us to then be able to continue with that positive self-talk and really start to eliminate the negative things that we're saying about ourselves, because, again, we want those positives to always be the thing that our brain hears, because, again, our brain doesn't learn, but it learns from us, who we are and how we feel about ourselves, and then our brain agrees with it. So know that you absolutely want to start being very, very selective and very careful about the thoughts you have and the people that you surround yourself with, because those are the biggest influences on how you feel about yourself and your ability to be able to reach any kind of goal, and in our case it's an emotional eating or a weight loss goal. So today I want you to really really think about interrupting negative self-talk, catching it, rebuttaling it, coming back with a rebuttal, telling your brain no, and then coming back with a reason why because you're not that person and then come back with another positive affirmation that you can then use, as you do your positive affirmations on a daily basis and then create affirmations, say them 10, 15 times a day. You can record your own voice saying them, you can listen to it, you can write them, you can speak them, whatever it is, but you want to have that tape continually playing.

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And then the third thing be very selective about who you surround yourselves with. You want to surround yourself with uplifting, positive and encouraging people to not only allow you to be able to play off of them, but for you to be able to have a positive impact on their lives as well, but always looking at how do I protect myself from negativity and how do I make sure that I am moving in a positive direction, saying the things that are good, that my brain wants to hear, that I want my brain to then focus on. We don't want focusing on the negative. We want it focusing on the positives and the things that we want to achieve in our lives.

Speaker 1:

I hope this quick little podcast has been helpful and I hope that today you go and you start catching yourself with that negative self-talk and you start to come back with a rebuttal statement of no, I don't say that anymore, because I'm not that kind of person and you are very selective about who you spend time with and that you start doing those affirmations on a daily basis 10, 15, 20 times, as many times as you can say. It reinforce positive and uplifting and encouraging messages that you know you want your brain to hear and that you want to have more of in your life. That's what we need to do and that will translate into you taking better care of yourself, feeding yourself in a better way, as well as not sabotaging yourself on your weight loss journey. All right, have an amazing rest of your week and I will see you next week. Take care.