BEE #163: Why Weight Loss Fails Without Emotional Work

You're not at the fridge because you lack discipline. You're there because something hurts, feels heavy, or feels unfinished, and food is the fastest way to change how you feel. 

In this episode of the Breakthrough Emotional Eating Podcast, I break down why diets work short term and fail long term, why that's a program design problem rather than a willpower problem, and the T Cycle I teach clients: thoughts create emotions, emotions drive actions, and actions create results, including eating when you're not hungry. We also cover the biology behind it, how calorie restriction spikes cortisol and sets you up for rebound eating, and how subconscious beliefs can sabotage progress even when you know what to do.

If you're in perimenopause or menopause, I share why hormonal shifts can intensify emotional eating and why slow, moderate changes work better than extremes. You'll walk away with the CALM method: clarity, awareness, less obsession, and moderation, a practical way to interrupt the pattern without guilt.

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The Real Reason You Snack

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Do you find yourself standing in front of the refrigerator? Not because you're hungry, but because something just doesn't feel right. Maybe you're stressed, maybe you're lonely, maybe you're just bored and you need to feel something different. If that sounds familiar, you are in the right place. Welcome to the Breakthrough Emotional Eating Podcast. I'm your host, Kristen Jones, certified life and weight loss coach, rapid transformational therapy practitioner, and someone who has lived everything I teach. In this podcast, we're gonna get real about why you eat the way you do. And I promise you, it has very little to do with food. We'll explore the suppressed emotions, the feelings you've been avoiding, and the quiet pain you've been trying to manage one bite at a time. Another diet is not the answer. Restriction didn't cause this and it won't heal it. But what will? A moderate, compassionate approach where no food is off limits. And where you start treating yourself like someone worth taking care of. Because emotional eating isn't about what's on your plate, it's about how you feel about yourself. So if you're ready to stop the cycle and finally get to the root of the issue, let's go.

A Contrarian Rule For Weight Loss

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Hi, and welcome to the Breakthrough Emotional Eating Podcast. My name is Kristen Jones, and thank you so much for joining me this week. I am participating in the Yap Challenge. It's a six-week challenge where I am posting daily, learning how to do face-to-camera uh content on Instagram and on Facebook. And one of the things that we were asked to do very early on in the challenge was to come up with something that was contrary to what most people in our niche um believed. And so I was thinking about the various things that I could talk about. And the one that stood out that is the most obvious to me, and it was the one I did my video on, was the fact that I believe that if a coach or someone you're working with or a program that you're doing to lose weight, if it does not come hard and fast right from the beginning, talking about the psychological aspects of losing weight, and more specifically the psychological aspects that led to the weight gain in the first place, you shouldn't be doing the problem. You might as well fire the coach, you might as well stop doing, stop doing the plan because it's not addressing what really needs to be addressed. Because the diet industry has made us believe that going on a diet and following a plan is actually doing what it needs to do, doing what our brain needs it to do in order for us to lose the weight and to keep it off. And in fact, most people, it's about 98% of the people who lose weight gain their weight back, and they gain their weight back and they gain a little bit more back in the process. And so we know that diets don't work, yet we keep doing them because we keep being told that that's what we're supposed to do. And it's not, and then we have all these different types of diets. We have different kinds of diets, different combinations of you know, food combinations and low carb and protein forward and intermittent fasting and paleo and keto and all of these different things. When the bottom line is that's not the main thing that needs to be looked at. A diet, in fact, does look at what you need to be eating, but that's the wrong angle to be taking in order to have sustainable long-term weight loss. So when people fail at dieting, it's not a willpower problem. It's a it's a design problem. It's the design of the program that they used. They weren't doing the things that needed to be done in order for them to permanently lose the weight, to really address the underlying issue. And that really is the key is figuring out what is your reason behind why you overeat, why you eat when you're not hungry, why you eat during stressful situations, why someone can say something and you're in the refrigerator. So we're most, and I and there are, and I'm not gonna say all, but I'm gonna say a lot of diet programs and a lot of diet coaches don't know how to do this. And honestly, I get people who refer their clients to me all the time because they can do the exercise, they can tell them what to eat, but from the psychological standpoint, those other, those other things of like looking at how you feel and what you're thinking and and your emotions behind it, oh, they do not want to have anything to do with that. Now, there has probably in the last five or six years, there's been a huge movement and a huge swing in coaches being educated on this type of thing. But it's still, there's still a much smaller percentage of coaches that know how to actually address the psychological aspects of weight loss. And there are even fewer of those coaches that know how to do it correctly and actually get their clients the long-term results that they want to have. So, today's episode is really looking at what are the things that need to be addressed? What do we need to figure out? Because you can reach your goal weight and you can feel exactly the same as you did before you started dieting. You can feel badly about yourself, you can have negative self-talk, you can think that you're gonna fail and you know this is not gonna work out. And so, all of those things, if we're not addressing why you think those things and the negative self-talk and the sabotaging behavior that you have, not necessarily around food. Usually it shows up with food, but it's not necessarily around food, it's just around life in general. If we're not addressing that, if as a coach, I'm not addressing that, I am letting my clients down. And I also know that I'm not setting them up to be successful in their weight loss. So really, my contrarian belief is that if first and foremost, if you are going to lose weight, if you do not address the psychological issue, first and foremost, before you make any changes to what you eat, you are wasting your time, you're wasting your money, and you might as well fire that coach because you have to deal with the psychological issues if you in fact want to permanently lose the weight and keep it off. So that is what we're gonna talk about today. So by the end of this episode, you're gonna understand why the psychological work has to be first and foremost, why it's not optional anymore. It is it is a required aspect. If you want to lose the weight and keep it off, that has to be the thing we lead with. And that's what I lead with in all of my programs is we talk about, we kind of come in hard and fast and from the beginning, all about your brain and how your brain works and what that looks like and how that is going to take you to moving towards losing weight. And the thing is, this is the crazy part, and this is what people don't understand. If you deal with the psychological aspect, if you figure out what your core belief is that's holding you back, and you can address that and clear that up and kind of do some reprogramming of your thoughts, you don't even have to change what you eat. You don't have to do anything. Maybe, maybe just cut back on portion sizes a little bit. And I really am a very strong proponent of moderation and doing very, very small changes, but you don't hardly have to do anything because you've really addressed what the driver is, why you're in the why you're in the refrigerage at 9:30 at night after you just had dinner, why you are, you know, eating a second lunch. You're really not hungry, but you feel like you need something else. So dealing with those things and figuring those things out, that is what needs to happen. And you're gonna understand why it's so important by the end of this lesson, by the end of this episode. So thank you for joining me on the Breakthrough Emotional Eating Podcast. I'm so happy you're

Thoughts Create Emotions Then Actions

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here. So the first thing we have to look at is diets in general. And diets in general were created to tell people what they needed to eat and how much they needed to move their bodies in order to create a calorie deficit so they could subsequently lose weight for whatever reason, whether it was an injury, whether it was uh a change in routine, um, just life getting busy, they couldn't maintain what they were doing before. So now we found ourselves in a place where we don't like how we feel, we want to make some changes. So we we do that and we seek out the advice of others. And that's, I'm gonna say that's kind of the first misstep that we all take. That misstep is looking to someone else to tell us what to do. Y'all, you're you're intelligent. You're intelligent, I'm intelligent, we've all had a lot of life experiences, and to say that we don't know what to do is I think a cop out. Because I think we need to take really clear responsibility of like, okay, when when somebody says, Well, I don't know how I gained this weight, yeah, I think you do. I think you do know how you gain the weight. And it's because at some point over the past, you know, few weeks, few months, a few years, you've incrementally eaten more food than your body needed for whatever reason, but that's what you've been doing. And here's where the disconnect comes is that people start thinking, well, then I need to look at because if it's about what I'm eating, then I just need to look at what I'm eating. And the thing is, if you don't understand how your brain works and you don't understand the hierarchy or the T cycle, is what I call it, and that is that thoughts lead to emotions. Emotions drive every action that we do. And every action that we do gets us the results that we either want or don't want. So the first three, that's the T cycle, T-E-A. So it's thoughts, emotions, and actions. No one, no one, I don't care who you are, no one does something without an emotion behind it, without some sort of emotion that's driving them. And those emotions come from the thoughts that we have. Now, we will say, well, someone else did this to me, and so that's why I'm feeling so bad. Mm-mm. You've created the emotion. You've created the thoughts about what someone else did, and that then creates your emotions. It's not that person's creating the emotions, you're creating it with the thoughts that you have. So as we as much as we might not want those thoughts, we absolutely get to be in control of them. And a lot of times people don't, people don't really want to hear that. They don't want to hear that they're responsible for what they need to do in order. They want, they want to be told by someone else what to do. Because what happens if somebody else tells us what to do? And we just say, I just, I just paid them and I just listened. What does that do? That takes all the responsibility away from us. And we just get to sit there and be the victim and be like, oh, it didn't work, and I paid them, and oh my God, this is so horrible. No, the bottom line is ultimately everyone has to seek responsibility for their own actions because your actions are your own. Your actions are driven by your thoughts, your thoughts. Your actions are driven by your thoughts, and your thoughts create your emotions, and your emotions then drive those actions. So we have to start getting more of that radical accountability of I'm gonna be accountable for the behaviors that I have and the things that I do. But also we have to remember we're all pretty smart. We kind of know what we kind of know what's going on. So every diet initially sets us up for looking at how much we how much we eat, how much we exercise. And I don't know of something called a diet that doesn't have a calorie restriction set up within it. Reducing calories, calories in, calories out. It's still math, it's still math, y'all, and the math is still math. And and it we do need to be in a calorie deficit. But here's the issue, and this is what again, this is where the psychological and the mental aspect of all of this has to be addressed because most people don't know this. Your

Calorie Restriction Triggers Survival Mode

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body senses when there is a restriction in calories, it senses it and it sees it as a threat. It sees it as a threat to your survival. So, what does it do? It goes into this kind of hyperdrive situation where it's it sees it as a threat, it starts to have a stress response, and your stress response oftentimes is to increase cortisol. Now, we all talk about cortisol, and oh my gosh, cortisol is so bad. Cortisol is really cortisol is for your body, it's not bad. It's what gets you up out of bed in the morning. But chronically high cortisol results in a in the increase of visceral fat, the storage of visceral fat, as well as the increased cravings that you have for calorie-dense foods, because your body senses, uh-oh, not eating enough, we need to make her eat. So what do we do? We make her start craving things. We increase a hormone that makes her start eating. We increase a hormone that makes her feel hungrier, that makes her not be able to tell when she's had enough food. 100% our bodies are so intelligent. Because our bodies are so intelligent, we have to come at losing weight with the same intelligence. And that intelligence is to not just be short-sighted and just think about how what am I eating and and what how am I moving my body? We need to be wiser than that. And we need to say, there's something behind this. And there's something behind it, and it's psychological. And I need to know what it is, because if I don't address that, this is just a waste of my time. So the your body, again, gets though that increase in in cortisol, which causes more cravings, which causes more storage of belly fat, and all, and all those things are very protective. But you don't like that because you want to be able to, you want to be able to lose the weight. You can lose weight, and sometimes, and people do, people white knuckle it and they just hold on for dear life, and they're like, I'm just gonna have tons of willpower. And they do that, they do it for two months, three months, six months, and then their willpower is finite. It goes away. And so eventually they start to fall back into those same patterns. And those same patterns start to be the patterns that send them back down the same road they were on before, because they really didn't

Subconscious Beliefs And Hypnosis Breakthroughs

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deal with the real issue. So one of the things that I did about two years ago was I had been, I had been um coaching clients, very successfully coaching clients. I had clients who lost 100 pounds, I've got clients like lose 70 pounds, 80 pounds. But what I was finding was there was this wall they were hitting, and they were they were coming up against these beliefs that they just couldn't put aside. And as much as they did their affirmations and thought about things from from a um from a conscious standpoint, from a thought standpoint, there were still things that were happening under the surface. There were still subconscious things that they weren't even aware of from their childhood that were going on, that were sabotaging them and that were resulting in them slowly kind of inching back with either not losing weight or slowly starting to regain weight. And it's one of the reasons why I decided to get my rapid transformational therapy uh practitioner certification and become a hypnotherapist because I knew that hypnotherapy was a way of tapping in to the subconscious. And I saw so many clients want it so badly. But these ingrained just just ingrained behaviors and responses that they just couldn't let go of. And so I made the decision to get that certification and be able to perform hypnosis. And I will tell you, it has been incredibly successful. And I've had just so many clients who have had so many, so many breakthroughs and so many wins as a result of doing hypnosis with me. And it really does um, it really has changed, kind of changed their lives for the better. But it's also allowed me to have another tool that I can use in order to help someone figure out what is the deeper issue, what is that below the surface thing that I keep doing that consciously I don't want to do, but I always end up in the same spot. And so having that, having that hypnosis background has really helped me be able to help my clients. You can lose weight with a calorie restriction, and it can come off, and you can continue to lose weight and have to go lower and lower and lower with your calories, and you can destroy your metabolism. And then when you do that, eventually there will be a rebound. Eventually, that rebound will come and there will be a binge, and it will be, you know, it will be a both a relief to your body as well as a oh, we just ruined everything. So when we do those calorie restrictions and we and we aren't looking at what that reason is behind it, and we're just strictly going by the numbers of what we eat and the you know, making it all about math, we're missing out on what's really gonna help us keep the weight off forever. So when I was still teaching school, this was probably, oh my gosh, probably 15 years ago, and I spent a I I became a uh a distributor for an MLM and I they had a uh uh a food a food program and they had a um oh gosh, what's it called? They had a um a like a healthy way of living kind of thing where it was a um a diet where you took all of these things away. So you you gave up like eight of the most common allergens that um that that keep people overweight, and you give those up for a month for 30 days. And so I did that. It was the hardest thing I'd ever done, but I stuck to, I mean, I was so committed and I stuck to it, and I had fantasies about food. I had never thought about food more and and just absolutely fantasized about food more than than any other time. First time I did it, I I think I think I might have lost like two pounds, two or three pounds. It wasn't very much, but it was I I was really. Really committed to it. And it and I did, I felt much better. I did feel good. Um, I didn't lose very much weight, but the second subsequent time that I tried to do it, I could not stay on the program. I could not follow it. I was having such a hard time. And what I would find, and this is where I started to get a clue about there's something else going on, and I had no idea what it was, but I knew there was something else going on because I would make my dinner. They would tell me, they would give me some parameters about what I could eat, and I would make my dinner, and I would eat it, and it would be no more than 10 to 15 minutes after finishing the meal that I'd be like, okay, let's have something sweet, because we weren't we weren't having anything sweet. And I was just craving sugar so much. And I remember thinking, there is something not right here because I am really full, but I would kill someone right now to get some sugar. And and I knew I was like, there's something I gotta look at. Like, this is a big deal. And in the moment, I didn't have the awareness and I didn't have the focus to be able to do anything. But it always became this thing that I was like, there's something not right about that. Like that just doesn't feel right. Um, and even when I tried to um to when I tried to start my business and I wanted to do just diet and exercise, I was doing it the traditional, I hand somebody a meal plan, I give them a food list, and they get to, you know, I tell them kind of give them guidelines on what they eat. And that was kind of my nutrition program. And I was, I I remember I had put a couple people on it, and all of a sudden I realized, wait a minute, Kristen, you can't do that because you can't follow it. If you can't follow it, then how can you put it on somebody else and think that they're gonna follow it too? So I've always known that there's been this other, this other missing piece. And it wasn't until, you know, kind of down the road that I really started to realize, oh, and and really started to realize what where that was coming from and why it needed to be addressed. So the when it comes to our diet and it comes to how we eat, our emotions play a much greater role than what we think. That when we are when we have an emotion, we have developed not only habits, but we've developed thought patterns over the course of our lives that have totally served us and they've really helped us and made us successful. But now as an adult, they really aren't working anymore. And so emotional eating or eating to calm yourself, to regulate your nervous system, to make yourself feel better, that's something we learned very early on. And and it worked as for us as as younger people. And it was something that was always, you know, kind of always there in the background. But if we don't know why or where that's coming from, we can't change something that we don't understand. If we don't understand where it comes from and what the kind of what the triggers are, we're never going to be able to figure it out because we can't just have, we don't just have blind faith. We have to have proof of like, okay, I see this, this is what's happening as a result of it. Now I can go ahead and start making changes and taking steps to make changes. So we have to remember that these are all things that have been around and around us and a part of our lives

Perimenopause Stress And Small Changes

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for a really long time. So is it gonna quickly, just when we decide, you know, I'm really gonna focus on my emotions and how I'm feeling, and suddenly you're gonna be really good at doing that and you're gonna allow that to stop you from, you know, eating a whole bowl of popcorn or, you know, eating a whole canister of ice cream. No, it's gonna take time. It's gonna take time and it's gonna take effort and it's gonna take consistency and commitment. And so we have to, again, remind ourselves, we have to be kind to ourselves, give ourselves a lot of that space and time to be able to figure those things out. One of the things I think is especially relevant for anyone listening to this podcast and anyone who's who's kind of in my age bracket is we always can have those tendencies for emotional eating. But even when a person has never been what they would consider an emotional eater, when we start to move into perimenopause and then subsequently into menopause, the drop in estrogen dramatically impacts your body's ability to be able to handle stress and be able to eat in a way that is appropriate for us because of the fact that our bodies will start, you know, especially if we diet, we'll start to crave foods in order for us not to have to diet anymore. But it's so important to remember that all of these things, that it's not just like, oh, I had I had a problem as a child. This can come out of nowhere. This can come when you are just entering perimenopause and all of a sudden you start having tendencies towards emotional eating. And if you if you haven't listened to last week's episode, you want to listen to that because that is all about the impact of the estrogen drop on emotional eating. And that is there's an extreme connection between those two things. And it really is about how do we, how, you know, how do we connect? How do we figure out where that thing comes from and then address it from there? And hypnosis is a great way of figuring it out. For people who aren't necessarily comfortable with hypnosis, there's always just regular cognitive behavioral therapy, um, which again is just, it's just talk, it's just talk. It's just talk and understanding your brain. Um, something, again, that I teach all my clients is how to understand how to how to work with their brain and and understand how it's working and the um tendencies that it has. And when we know those things, when we're informed and we're educated, we can then take make different choices. And so that really sets us up to be a much more informed and aware eater because we have more information at our disposal. So again, it's another movement towards we have to frontload with this psychological. Where did this come from? What are my triggers? What are my eating issues that I need to start addressing now in conjunction with or before I start to make these significant food changes? And again, I am not an advocate for making any significant food changes. I think changes in what you eat need to be very small, they need to be very incremental. We don't need to alert our bodies that we're dropping five to seven hundred calories a day. That is way too much. And your body will negatively respond to that. So we want to keep it, again, much, much lower on the scale of how we go into a very slight calorie restriction. And is it going to be a slower weight loss? Absolutely. But slower is going to be so much better because it's actually going to be something that's sustainable.

The CALM Method To Interrupt Eating

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So as a result of all of this, I came up with a kind of a four-part uh, a four-part uh action plan. And it's called the calm method. And what the calm method does is it takes each, as we as we present or we as we are presented with an episode of emotional eating or something that we've eaten that we don't feel right about, that we don't feel good about, instead of wallowing in self-pity and and guilt and shame, we can then start to kind of like pull ourselves out by using this calm method. And it's it's really what I how I lead my sessions with clients as well as kind of empower them to address their own issues. So the this the C in calm stands for clarity. And that's naming what's actually happening. We've got to name it, we've got to identify it and say, okay, I am thinking that, you know, I am I am thinking that this person who said something to me, they're out to get me. And that leaves me really upset, leaves me very anxious, and I don't know what to do with that energy. Getting clarity on what that is, we're not trying to fix it. We're just acknowledging it. We're acknowledging it and we're putting it out there. And especially if you are somebody who never acknowledges their emotions, you especially need to do this. And again, it's just naming the emotion and how you're feeling. That's it. We're not trying to fix anything, we're not trying to do anything different. The second thing is awareness. And awareness, we cannot make any changes unless we have awareness. And awareness is learning to catch those triggers and those things that kind of set us off and alert us to kind of where we're headed and the direction that we're going in with our thinking and then subsequently our actions. And so we want to kind of be able to stop kind of and recognize those triggers as they're happening, or maybe just a few minutes after they're happening and not have it be later in the day or after the binge or after you've eaten the whole refrigerator. It's like, nope, let's try and catch like what just happened, what was I feeling, what did those words mean to me, and and really start to interrupt those patterns. Because that's the one thing I would say that is the most common question that I get is people ask me, how do I stop when I can feel myself getting upset and I feel myself wanting food even when I'm not hungry? And I can own and admit that I'm not hungry, but I want that food no matter what. How do we, how do we stop ourselves in those moments? And this is exactly how you do it. So again, clarity, you name it. Um, awareness, you are able to um you identify it and name it. Or you sorry, you catch the trigger, you actually catch the trigger and put and have something to be able to put into place to slow down your thinking. Oftentimes it is just a pause, just an opportunity just to pause and talk to a friend. Then the third the third step is the L step, and that's less obsession. So letting go of, oh my gosh, this just happened. It's either all or nothing. Either I'm totally good or I'm totally bad. And so that puts a lot of pressure on you to decide: am I gonna eat? Because if I'm gonna eat, I'm gonna binge completely. And if I don't, I'm gonna just hold on really tight and be super cranky and horrible to be around. No, how about we just let go of the obsession? Doesn't mean we give ourselves permission to eat whatever we want, but maybe there can be some moderation in addressing those extreme feelings that we have. M is for moderation, and moderation is just how we respond. We don't respond in one extreme or the other. It's just a moderate response. Because when we don't figure that out and we just try to satisfy ourselves with the food, that's when we start eating and we keep eating without any regard to our fullness or even that we even need the food. And that is what can be so, so destructive because when we're just mindlessly eating, we are going to mindlessly put on way more weight than our body actually needs. And listening to our bodies and feeling okay with whether we feel like we overate or whether we feel like we underrate. It doesn't matter because it's your body. You get to decide. You get to decide where you are. So again, I would always want to emphasize that this is a very, very individual and very unique process. And it's about you taking care of you and enjoying that 30 minutes that you have of quiet time, and then enjoying uh putting on your podcast or being on your podcast, being and uh, you know, doing whatever you need to do to listen to something that gives you the opportunity to be able to understand what's happening. All of those things all play a role, and they have nothing to do with food. Is food something we need to take into consideration? 1000%. But is it the first and foremost? Absolutely not. Absolutely not. We need to start prioritizing the mental and emotional aspects of losing weight in order to keep it off for good. Because nobody wants to do that back and forth. Nobody wakes up and says, gosh, I really want to lose some weight and then gain it back. Because that's gonna make me feel really good.

What To Do Next For Support

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No one's doing that. Let's not do that. Let's, let's, let's connect weekly and make sure that that happens. So come back for the next podcast. And again, series of podcasts, we want to make sure that everybody knows exactly the steps that they need to take and why the psychological aspect is so important. Because again, our brain is the most powerful weapon we have, it is the most powerful tool and strategy that we have when it comes to losing weight and coming to making any improvements in our lives. And if we are not taking advantage of it, we are missing out. And nobody wants to miss out. So I really, really encourage you to try to make sure that you are getting all the information that you need and that you are accessing the psychological part. And that maybe mean going back to previous episodes on the podcast. I have over 160 podcast episodes that almost all exclusively, we don't talk about food here. They almost all exclusively deal with the psychological aspect. So you got tons of stuff to listen to. So listen up and make sure that when you are getting support, that the support that you're getting is actually the support that you need. And that would be the support of understanding how your brain works, understanding your brain, how it works, and understand the T cycle, thoughts, emotions, and actions, and then go out there and just do what you need to do and enjoy life, and you will come to a place where you're going to be happy. I hope this episode was helpful. If it if you feel like it was helpful for you, go ahead and send it to a friend and help them decide to focus on what is really necessary when it comes to losing weight, and that is the psychological and emotional aspects of losing weight. I hope this has been helpful, and I will see you on the next episode. Thanks for listening to this week's episode. If today's episode resonated with you and you're ready to take the next step, here's how we can work together. You can apply for my one-to-one coaching. Join the wait list for my menopause coaching program. Or if you're not sure which is the right fit, book a free discovery call and we'll figure it out together. All the links are in the show notes. Until next time, remember healing your relationship with food is possible, and you don't have to do it alone.